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Stephanie was particularly nasty to me for several days. I found myself fighting the urge to respond in-kind, to say and do things to mimic back to her the words and actions that were distressing me. But I didn't. She's stressed, tired, hurting, in-love with someone who isn't in love with her, etc etc. But those are excuses. I came home Thursday night and I was so drained from work and so drained from the negativity just rolling off of her and onto me,and I realized that I was making excuses for her and there really is no excuse for the things she was saying and the way she was treating me. Its just not acceptable, treating people you supposedly love like shit. Chris called and it put her in a pissier mood, she decided to go out. I decided to take a bath, and in the bath I realized that I had to stop taking it and making excuses for her and tell her it had to stop. But I was tired and I didn't want to wait up until she got home, so I sent her an email titled "I am the frayed end of the rope", and prefaced it that it was a pissy letter. I was worried if she checked her email when she got home that she would wake me up with a fight. But it didn't happen. And in the morning she sent me fairly reasonable email and and the fight did not materialize. We talked and I have her permission to say "Hey, what gives?" to let her know she's being snarly and hopefully I'll stop feeling like she is wiping her feet on me.