As an aside to the above

I told Chris that I was surprised, if his wife was anorexic, that he was dating me. He looked puzzled. I explained that what I meant was that anorexics are thin and I am quite the opposite. He said she wasn't always so thin, that he's not attracted to thin women and that was part of the horror of it all, that Cheryl was starving herself and thought that it made her more attractive to him. He admitted that there is more of me than he normally finds desireable, but he's attracted to me on so many levels and I'm so alive and responsive when he touches me that it doesn't matter. He said weight is only an issue to him in so much as it is a health-risk, whether that weight is too low or too high. Thats cool.